A recent trip to Disneyland taught me a powerful lesson about the importance of savoring the little moments of joy, even when surrounded by stress and chaos. Disneyland, the self-proclaimed happiest place on Earth, is also a place where long lines, bustling crowds, and the overwhelming stimuli of lights, sounds, and attractions can make the experience feel anything but magical at times. Yet, amidst all the commotion, there is something profoundly beautiful about the magic that this place evokes in people if only we take a moment to truly see it.

As I stood in line, waiting for what felt like an eternity to ride Star Wars: Rise of the Resistance, I couldn’t help but notice the impatience rise within me. The sun was beating down, the line seemed to inch forward at a glacial pace, and children (and some adults) were crying from exhaustion. This was far from the happiest place in the galaxy, let alone Earth. But in my frustration, I looked around and caught a glimpse of something that shifted my perspective. I saw the pure, unfiltered joy on a little boy's face as he held his toy lightsaber, pretending to engage in battle with imaginary foes. I saw a mother and her teenage daughter laughing together as they reminisced about past trips, and a young couple, hands entwined, sharing an excited smile as they neared the front of the line. These small, fleeting moments of happiness were everywhere—tiny gems scattered throughout the stress of the day.

Savoring: A Positive Psychology Concept

This realization brought me back to the concept of savoring—truly appreciating those small, mundane moments that might otherwise pass us by. In their book, Savoring: A New Model of Positive Experience, Bryant and Veroff defined savoring as "the capacity to attend to, appreciate, and enhance the positive experiences in one’s life." While we often focus on coping with negative experiences, we rarely consider how to fully capture and embrace the positive moments that enrich our lives. In psychodynamic terms, savoring is an important practice because it allows us to connect to the present and fully engage with the positive emotions that arise, rather than letting them get lost amidst the noise of everyday stressors. When we’re caught up in the chaos, it's easy to get overwhelmed by the discomfort of waiting, the frustration of a crowded park, or the stress of trying to keep everything on schedule. But savoring means pausing to notice the little sparks of magic that make the experience worthwhile.

The power of savoring lies in its simplicity. As I watched families delight in each other's company, children in awe of meeting their favorite Disney characters, and friends erupting into laughter at the whimsy around them, I realized that these seemingly small, mundane moments are what truly create the magic of Disneyland. They are what make all the waiting in line and navigating crowds worthwhile. The beauty isn’t necessarily in the rides or attractions themselves; it’s in the smiles, the laughter, and the shared joy that people experience together.

I decided to challenge myself to consciously savor more of these moments throughout the day. As we made our way through the park, I focused less on the crowded walkways and more on the joy on people’s faces when they watched the fireworks light up the night sky. I noticed the excitement in my friend’s voice as they recounted childhood memories sparked by riding Pirates of the Caribbean. I took a moment to fully enjoy the taste of the famous Disney churros, even as we rushed to get to our next attraction. These small choices to savor—to be present and fully experience these moments—transformed my entire day.

There’s a deeper lesson here that extends beyond Disneyland. Life itself can feel a lot like a crowded theme park—full of long waits, unexpected frustrations, and moments that feel overwhelming. But within this chaos, there are also countless opportunities for connection, wonder, and joy. The more we practice savoring these little moments, the more resilient we become in the face of life’s stressors. The laughter of a loved one, the warmth of the sun on our skin, the comforting taste of a favorite treat—these are the moments that give life its richness and meaning.

Final Thoughts

Disneyland is a microcosm of life’s ups and downs—its highs and lows. It’s a place where the magic is there, but we have to choose to see it. By practicing savoring, we can find the joy hidden in the mundane, the beauty nestled within the chaos. It’s not always easy, especially when we’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, but it is a practice that can profoundly change how we experience the world.

So, the next time you find yourself feeling impatient or frustrated, whether in a crowded theme park or simply in the chaos of daily life, I encourage you to pause and look around. Find the small moments of magic—the laughter, the smiles, the connection. Savor them. Because in the end, it’s those little moments of joy that make the journey worthwhile.

If you find yourself struggling to savor these moments or want to learn how to more fully appreciate the joy in everyday life, consider reaching out. Together, we can work on cultivating mindfulness, reducing stress, and finding the beauty in the mundane, allowing you to experience a deeper sense of fulfillment and well-being.